Congratulations! But why are you doing it?

About a year ago M and I started telling family and friends that we were going to get married.

Most of the times we got reactions such as “Congratulations!”, “I’m so happy for you!”, “Yeah!”. Other people didn’t seem very excited, and just told us “Uh, ok”. Better still than “Whatever”, but luckily no one said that!

Then we also received comments like “It was about time!”, “You’ve been together for such a long time!”. And while I replied with a vague “Yeah, right!” and a smile, I would start thinking What does it mean It was about time?! So after a certain amount of time you have to get married? I don’t think so! And what about people that decide to get married after being together a year or two? They should wait, or what?

Sometime the comment “You’ve been together for such a long time” was followed by “It’s not going to change anything”. Wait, what? Then we might as well stop planning the wedding, because what’s the point?

OK, I know they were just saying and they didn’t mean anything wrong. But still…

To me “It’s not going to change anything” sounds a lot like “Whatever”. And “You’ve been together for such a long time” it’s like saying “Of course you’re getting married, it’s just what you do”. Here’s the thing, maybe some people do get married because that’s what you do, but for us it was a carefully thought decision.

I know I was, and I am overreacting! Anyway, my thoughts about that kind of reactions, I just kept them for myself. Or share them with M. And now here.

It’s just that thinking that They’re just saying doesn’t help. Because I don’t want people to just say something, but I would appreciate that they show some interest. Like a friend of M’s. The only one who, after M told him that we had decided to get married, asked “Why?”. Thank you!

Well, basically the answer is “To make it official”. To be officially be seen as a couple, as a family. That’s why I proposed. Because as long as we were living in the Netherlands, we were already considered a family. And since we had decided to move back to Italy, I wanted that to continue, and not just to be seen as two people living together. We both know that we are more than that, but we wanted the Italian state, society, friends and family to also acknowledge that.

Some might think that the answer should be “Because we love each other”. Of course we do. But as we cynically like to say “Love has nothing to do with our decision to get married!”

Brian Cox, entropy and sandcastles

The quote in my previous post mentioned the second law of thermodynamics. Though I had studied something about it in high school, I didn’t (and don’t!) remember anything about it. So I asked M. He is the scientist of the family after all. Well, he wasn’t very helpful! He remembered something about entropy, but not much more.

Good thing I found another Brain Pickings’ post with Brian Cox explaining entropy. Oh, Brian Cox!

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Big Red Button

On Sunday I was part of a scientific experiment! I mean I was a passenger on a scientific experiment. Said experiment is an electric vehicle M. is working on. I cannot be more specific, it’s a secret experiment! Ehm, actually I cannot be more specific, because I don’t know how to be more specific.

Anyway, while riding on this futuristic electric vehicle, this red button caught my attention.

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I asked what happens when you push it, and basically what happens is that the power is switched off.

So I made sure to stay away from the red button, even though I kept thinking about Peter Griffin in this episode of Family Guy:

Then yesterday I saw this video and I thought “When you push the red button, this should happen!”.